Protect your nightsFind your person
Tenr sets you up on curated 10-minute video dates so you can see if there's chemistry before meeting in person.
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How it works
Four steps to your person
Apply & Get Vetted
Submit your profile and get verified. Our community is exclusively for intentional daters.
Curated Matches
Our algorithm analyzes 250+ compatibility data points to find someone who truly fits — not just surface-level.
10-Min Video Date
Skip the small talk. Jump on a quick Tenr (10-minute video date) to check for real chemistry before committing to a full night out.
Meet IRL
Chemistry confirmed? Take it offline. No more wasting 3 hours on a first date with zero spark.
How Tenr Is Built Differently
Wingmen
Your friends know you best. On Tenr, they help build your profile, pick your photos, and inform the algorithm — because no one sells you better than the people who actually know you.
No bullshit
We ask what others won't. Because if it matters to you, it matters. Politics, finances, physical appearance - we even verify height.
Try height verification →The bar is high.
Tenr is application and invite-only. Every profile is reviewed by our team. Not trying to grow fast. Trying to build something worth being part of.
“If you know in 10 minutes, why spend 3 hours?”
Proven matches
Love stories from Tenr
Thoughtfully matched. Quickly meaningful. Genuinely real.
Tenr helped us get past the surface immediately, allowing us to connect on values and what actually matters. We built a deeper connection faster than anything I've experienced before!
We found each other within a month of joining Tenr. We even wrote to the team to say we'd deleted the app (a first for both of us) because it worked. We tell all our single friends to join.
The chemistry check saved us so much time. Tenr's match felt genuinely curated, and it immediately felt easy to be ourselves. It's been 6 months since we met and haven't looked back.
Questions
Common questions
Tenr is a members-only matchmaking app for high achievers who are serious about finding a long-term partner. We match you with someone we think you'll genuinely connect with. Your first interaction is a 10-minute video date — called a Tenr — before either of you commits to anything in person. No swiping, no messaging, no profiles, no wasted evenings.
During onboarding, you answer a detailed set of questions about yourself and what you're looking for — including things most apps won't touch: height, body type, earning potential, lifestyle expectations, and real deal-breakers. Our matching algorithm uses your answers to score compatibility with other members and pairs you with someone we're genuinely confident about. We also factor in geography, how long it's been since your last match, and mutual-fit signals from both sides of the pairing. We'd rather you wait a few extra days for a strong match than get a weak one fast.
High achievers who are done with apps that weren't built for them. Tenr is members-only — we review every application and consider career, education, references, and appearance before admitting someone. This isn't exclusion for its own sake. It's about building a pool where everyone is serious, has real skin in the game, and is here for the same reason: finding a real relationship.
Apply on our website with your phone number and LinkedIn. Our team reviews every application. If you're admitted, you'll receive a text and your number will be allowlisted for sign-up. The app is locked — you can't just download and create an account. Members can also refer friends using a monthly invite, which bypasses the waitlist entirely.
Because profiles lie and photos don't capture chemistry. The problem with every other app isn't finding people — it's that you can't tell if there's a real spark until you're already sitting across from someone at dinner. A 10-minute video call changes that. You see how someone talks, laughs, and thinks in a format that's low-stakes but honest. We built the entire product around this insight.