Tenr is a members-only matchmaking app for high achievers who are serious about finding a long-term partner. We match you with someone we think you'll genuinely connect with. Your first interaction is a 10-minute video date — called a Tenr — before either of you commits to anything in person. No swiping, no messaging, no profiles, no wasted evenings.
A Tenr is a 10-minute video date. Most people know within the first few minutes whether there's real chemistry — we just put that moment first. If both of you want to continue after the call, you move to an in-person date. If not, you've each saved a 3-hour evening. Either way, you've learned something real. The whole app is built around this format.
Because profiles lie and photos don't capture chemistry. The problem with every other app isn't finding people — it's that you can't tell if there's a real spark until you're already sitting across from someone at dinner. A 10-minute video call changes that. You see how someone talks, laughs, and thinks in a format that's low-stakes but honest. We built the entire product around this insight.
During onboarding, you answer a detailed set of questions about yourself and what you're looking for — including things most apps won't touch: height, body type, earning potential, lifestyle expectations, and real deal-breakers. Our matching algorithm uses your answers to score compatibility with other members and pairs you with someone we're genuinely confident about. We also factor in geography, how long it's been since your last match, and mutual-fit signals from both sides of the pairing. We'd rather you wait a few extra days for a strong match than get a weak one fast.
Honest ones. We ask about your values, what you want in a long-term partner, your lifestyle — and yes, the specifics most apps avoid: height, body type, income range, and other factors people privately care about but can never actually filter for elsewhere. You'll also answer open-ended prompts that help us understand your personality and priorities. None of it is ever shown to your matches or displayed publicly. It lives between you and the algorithm, used solely to make better pairings.
We don't set a target frequency, and that's intentional. We only send a match when the algorithm is confident it's a genuinely strong one — not to hit a weekly quota. When a match comes, it's because we thought it through.
High achievers who are done with apps that weren't built for them. Tenr is members-only — we review every application and consider career, education, references, and appearance before admitting someone. This isn't exclusion for its own sake. It's about building a pool where everyone is serious, has real skin in the game, and is here for the same reason: finding a real relationship.
Apply on our website with your phone number and LinkedIn. Our team reviews every application. If you're admitted, you'll receive a text and your number will be allowlisted for sign-up. The app is locked — you can't just download and create an account. Members can also refer friends using a monthly invite, which bypasses the waitlist entirely.
Yes — and that's not something most apps can say. Every member is required to verify their identity with a live video selfie before they can be matched. We check that your photos are real and consistent with who you are. Combined with our application review process, this means everyone you meet on Tenr is a real, vetted person who chose to be here. Dating should feel safe. On apps where anyone can sign up anonymously and post whatever photos they want, it often doesn't. Tenr is built differently — the people here are intentional about finding something real, and we make sure of it.
Most dating apps charge you just to exist on the platform — whether or not you ever go on a good date. Tenr is different. Our pricing is incentive-aligned: you only pay when we actually get you on a great date. If there's no spark, you don't pay. That means we only win when you do, which is exactly how it should be.
Email support@tenr.co with the subject line "Delete my data." Our team will process your request and confirm once everything has been removed.