Data & Research

Data-driven takes on dating and relationships.

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Data & Research7 min read

Are Marriages That Start Online Happier? The Research

A 19,131-person study found marriages that began online were slightly happier and less likely to end. Here's what it showed and who funded it.

October 5, 2026Read article →
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Do the 36 Questions Work? What Aron's Study Found

The 36 questions to fall in love come from a 1997 closeness study. Here's what Arthur Aron's research measured, found and never claimed.

September 30, 2026Read article →
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Americans Are Socializing Less: The Time-Use Data

BLS data shows Americans spent 35 minutes a day socializing in 2025, down from 41 in 2015. What the numbers say, and what they mean for meeting someone.

September 27, 2026Read article →
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Is Cuffing Season Real? What the Research Actually Shows

Cuffing season is usually blamed on cold weather. A 129-country study of search data points somewhere else: the holidays. Here's what the evidence supports.

September 26, 2026Read article →
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How Many Single People Live in NYC? Census Data by Borough

45% of New Yorkers 15+ have never married, and Manhattan has about 90 unmarried men per 100 unmarried women aged 15–44. Census data by borough.

September 25, 2026Read article →
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Do Opposites Attract? What the Research Actually Shows

A meta-analysis of 199 studies plus data on 79,074 UK couples finds partners resemble each other on most traits. Where similarity matters, and where it doesn't.

September 23, 2026Read article →
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Most Single Americans Aren't Looking to Date. Here's the Data

Pew found 57% of single adults aren't looking for a relationship or dates — and interest has been falling, especially among men. What that means for the people who are.

September 15, 2026Read article →
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How Many Adults Are Actually Single? The Census Numbers

The 'everyone is single now' narrative peaked in 2019. Pew's analysis of Census data shows the unpartnered share has ticked down — and where singles actually concentrate.

September 12, 2026Read article →
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Living Together Before Marriage: What the Research Actually Found

Does cohabiting before marriage raise divorce risk? A Stanford analysis of 216,000 couple-years says the answer depends on when you look — and on who you lived with before.

September 9, 2026Read article →
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The US Divorce Rate Is at a 50-Year Low. Here's the Actual Data

'Half of marriages end in divorce' is decades out of date. CDC vital statistics show divorce at its lowest rate in generations — and marriage declining too. The full 2000–2023 numbers.

September 7, 2026Read article →
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What Speed-Dating Research Reveals About Who You'll Actually Like

Psychologists have run hundreds of controlled speed-dating events to study attraction. The core finding: people can't predict who they'll want. Here's the data.

September 5, 2026Read article →
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Age Gaps and Marriage Timing: What the Data Actually Shows

Americans now marry later than ever, and the research on age gaps is more nuanced than the headlines. Here's what Census data and a well-known Emory study really found.

September 3, 2026Read article →
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How Couples Actually Meet: What Stanford's Data Shows

Stanford's How Couples Meet and Stay Together study is the definitive dataset on relationship formation. Here's what it found — including the parts nobody quotes.

August 27, 2026Read article →
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What the Research Actually Says About Attachment Styles and Relationships

Attachment style content online is mostly recycled without citation. Here's what a large national survey and a 132-study meta-analysis actually found.

August 18, 2026Read article →
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What Pew Research Actually Found About Online Dating

Pew Research Center's 2023 survey of U.S. online daters is one of the few large, methodologically solid datasets on the subject. Here's what it actually shows.

August 8, 2026Read article →
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How Long NYC Daters Actually Talk Before Meeting Up

Data on time-to-first-date shows most matches either meet within a week or drift into an endless talking stage that never converts. Here's what the numbers say.

July 29, 2026Read article →
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What the Data Actually Says About First Message Response Rates

Most advice about opening lines is guesswork. Here's what response-rate data actually shows about what gets a reply — and why the whole premise may be the wrong question.

July 15, 2026Read article →
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How Many Dates Does It Actually Take to Find a Relationship?

People want a number. The honest answer is more useful than a number — here's what the data on dating volume and match quality actually shows.

July 8, 2026Read article →
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The Data Behind First Date Success Rates (And Why Most Numbers Are Misleading)

Everyone cites a "success rate" for dating apps and matchmaking, but the numbers rarely mean what people think. Here's what the data actually shows.

July 1, 2026Read article →
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What 250 Data Points Can and Cannot Tell You About Compatibility

Tenr evaluates potential matches across 250+ dimensions. Here's what that data actually captures, what it can predict, and where human judgment still has the edge.

May 22, 2026Read article →